Spring Break
Dear E: Girlfriend Grandeur
Erin Bonsall
Issue date: 4/8/05 Section: Editorial/Opinion
04/08/05 - Dear E,
My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost four months now. She told me the other day that we are seeing each other too much, but I feel that I can be with her for 24/7 and never get tired of her.
Is she afraid of committing or is it just a phase? What should I do?
-Confused
Dear Confused,
The best that I can do is guess at what your girlfriend is feeling right now. The best thing to do would be to ask your girlfriend about the situation: Is she getting tired of the relationship in general, or does he feel like it's getting too serious too fast?
There are a multitude of possibilities as to why she thinks you're seeing each other too much and you'll save yourself a lot of grief if you stop guessing as to what the reason is and simply ask her.
While no two relationships are exactly the same, all relationships go through stages and they're typically very similar stages.
In the beginning of relationships, most couples simply can't get enough of one another and pretty much feel that there aren't enough hours in the day to spend together.
Once this initial love-rush wears off it doesn't change the fact that they care about each other. In fact, I think it's better when couples continue to grow and change as individuals because then they can bring more into the relationship and keep it from stalling.
I suspect that your girlfriend has simply moved out of the initial infatuation stage before you have. This shouldn't cause any major friction in the relationship as long as you both take the time to talk to about where you stand in the relationship right now, and where you're each expecting it to go.
Good luck!
If you have a question for Erin, you can e-mail her at askerin5@hotmail.com, or drop a question off in person, Room 125 of the Memorial Union.
My girlfriend and I have been going out for almost four months now. She told me the other day that we are seeing each other too much, but I feel that I can be with her for 24/7 and never get tired of her.
Is she afraid of committing or is it just a phase? What should I do?
-Confused
Dear Confused,
The best that I can do is guess at what your girlfriend is feeling right now. The best thing to do would be to ask your girlfriend about the situation: Is she getting tired of the relationship in general, or does he feel like it's getting too serious too fast?
There are a multitude of possibilities as to why she thinks you're seeing each other too much and you'll save yourself a lot of grief if you stop guessing as to what the reason is and simply ask her.
While no two relationships are exactly the same, all relationships go through stages and they're typically very similar stages.
In the beginning of relationships, most couples simply can't get enough of one another and pretty much feel that there aren't enough hours in the day to spend together.
Once this initial love-rush wears off it doesn't change the fact that they care about each other. In fact, I think it's better when couples continue to grow and change as individuals because then they can bring more into the relationship and keep it from stalling.
I suspect that your girlfriend has simply moved out of the initial infatuation stage before you have. This shouldn't cause any major friction in the relationship as long as you both take the time to talk to about where you stand in the relationship right now, and where you're each expecting it to go.
Good luck!
If you have a question for Erin, you can e-mail her at askerin5@hotmail.com, or drop a question off in person, Room 125 of the Memorial Union.
