Why good guys really come in last
Chris Ferdinandi
Issue date: 2/7/08 Section: Editorial/Opinion
Confident guys don't say that being called a great friend "shot down my lonely heart and made me sulk in a pit of confusion." They say, "Her loss that she doesn't get to experience me on a more intimate level and my gain for having such a great friend in my life." There are plenty of beautiful, wonderful women in the world dying to meet a nice, confident guy. Get back out there!
Finally, confident guys are not "looking for women to bring home to mother." They're looking for a woman to come home to. It's definitely a plus if my mom like's the woman I'm dating, but guess who's not sleeping next to her every night? That's right, my mom! (Though if she was, that coveted spot on Jerry Springer might finally be mine!) Wusses behave in a way that seeks the approval of others. Confident guys look for behaviors that they like, but don't care if others approve.
Jeremy, there are plenty of great, gorgeous women out there who are dying to meet a more confident you. To paraphrase myself, this isn't about changing who you are. It's about presenting yourself in a way that makes women more inclined to want to get to know you in the first place.
Remember, nice guys don't finish last - wusses do!
Finally, confident guys are not "looking for women to bring home to mother." They're looking for a woman to come home to. It's definitely a plus if my mom like's the woman I'm dating, but guess who's not sleeping next to her every night? That's right, my mom! (Though if she was, that coveted spot on Jerry Springer might finally be mine!) Wusses behave in a way that seeks the approval of others. Confident guys look for behaviors that they like, but don't care if others approve.
Jeremy, there are plenty of great, gorgeous women out there who are dying to meet a more confident you. To paraphrase myself, this isn't about changing who you are. It's about presenting yourself in a way that makes women more inclined to want to get to know you in the first place.
Remember, nice guys don't finish last - wusses do!
