Spring Break
Sex & the Cigar
Lost that lovin' feeling?
Scarlet Buns, The Trench Coat Flasher & Tina Fookmi
Issue date: 11/7/08 Section: Editorial/Opinion
11/07/08 - Dear Sex & the Cigar,
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and up until about a month ago, we had a very active, healthy sex-life. A month ago everything in the bedroom just came to a halt. I've tried fooling around with him but it really doesn't get much further than that. I don't know what to do. I feel like he's lost interest in me. I love him and I don't want our relationship to end because of this. What should I do?
Unappreciated
Dear Unappreciated,
There are a few things that this could be. Unfortunately, the
re's always the
chance that he has lost interest in your relationship and doesn't know how to tell you. However, he could also have just lost interest in the sex. Maybe he got bored of the same routine all the time.
Try spicing up your love life. Get him to go out dancing; being close and feeling your bodies against each other and together can definitely help get him in the mood.
When you two are out shopping, grab him in an empty elevator or against the car and try engaging in some passionate kissing. Now I'm not suggesting you go crazy and start doing the horizontal mambo in some sleazy parking lot, just enough to let him know you want him badly and can't wait to get home.
The fact that you are so into him will be a turn on.
On the other hand, he may not be bored. Maybe he just wants to be with you. I know, it's a little unconventional for guys but sometimes they surprise you.
Perhaps there was too much sex (OMG did she just say TOO MUCH sex?) and not enough time for you guys to just hang out. Try sitting down with him and ask him what's going on.
Let him know that you're feeling unappreciated. I'm sure he'll understand. I hope that helped. Good luck!
Scarlet Buns
Before I get into the details of what I think you could try, first, I have to bring up the elephant in the room. If this were my partner, I would have them strip in front of a heavy light in front of me and then examine them.
My boyfriend and I have been together for about a year and up until about a month ago, we had a very active, healthy sex-life. A month ago everything in the bedroom just came to a halt. I've tried fooling around with him but it really doesn't get much further than that. I don't know what to do. I feel like he's lost interest in me. I love him and I don't want our relationship to end because of this. What should I do?
Unappreciated
Dear Unappreciated,
There are a few things that this could be. Unfortunately, the
re's always the
chance that he has lost interest in your relationship and doesn't know how to tell you. However, he could also have just lost interest in the sex. Maybe he got bored of the same routine all the time.
Try spicing up your love life. Get him to go out dancing; being close and feeling your bodies against each other and together can definitely help get him in the mood.
When you two are out shopping, grab him in an empty elevator or against the car and try engaging in some passionate kissing. Now I'm not suggesting you go crazy and start doing the horizontal mambo in some sleazy parking lot, just enough to let him know you want him badly and can't wait to get home.
The fact that you are so into him will be a turn on.
On the other hand, he may not be bored. Maybe he just wants to be with you. I know, it's a little unconventional for guys but sometimes they surprise you.
Perhaps there was too much sex (OMG did she just say TOO MUCH sex?) and not enough time for you guys to just hang out. Try sitting down with him and ask him what's going on.
Let him know that you're feeling unappreciated. I'm sure he'll understand. I hope that helped. Good luck!
Scarlet Buns
Before I get into the details of what I think you could try, first, I have to bring up the elephant in the room. If this were my partner, I would have them strip in front of a heavy light in front of me and then examine them.
